How to Market Your Self Published Book

I’ve recently taken on a new business opportunity that has to do with helping people reach their goals.  Writing can be such a solitary experience sometimes that I had almost forgotten how exhilarating it can be to work with others and help others with their challenges.  I’m so glad that I have been reminded how important it is and how good it makes us feel to encourage others!

So, I have decided to take the experience to my writing/authoring world.  Since the time I started writing my first book, two years ago, I have had many people ask me about book marketing for the self-published author.  Today, I’m going to share a few things that I have learned from my own experience in self publishing a fictional novel.   If you have any questions about the topic after reading this, please feel free to comment below or send me an email.

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First, it’s important the the book have a magnetic, genre appropriate, professional looking cover (because let’s face it, readers DO judge books by their cover) and professional editing.  (Your mother or best friend do not count!)  After that, the synopsis (or blurb) needs to fascinate the reader to the point where they HAVE to read the sample.  One way to do this is to look at other covers/blurbs in the same genre and see what’s successful and what’s not.  And, of course, the sample has to intrigue and entertain the reader so much that they’ll just have to keep reading (which means, hello book sale!).  With all the competition out there, excelling at these will set his book apart from the millions of other books readers have to choose from before making a purchase.  Also, it is important to research pricing and set the book at a competitive price.

Next, it’s important to be active on social media.  An author website  with a bio and links to his book is imperative.  If readers like your book, they are going to want to be able to connect with you and steer their friends toward you.  You don’t have to participate in every social media outlet, but you should be active on at least one or two…whatever you’re most comfortable with and whatever you’ll be most active on, whether its a blog, facebook, twitter, etc…

Having an Amazon author page is beneficial.  If readers see your book on Amazon, and want to know more about you, they can find out more on your Amazon page.  Your page can be set up through Amazon’s “Author Central,” here:  https://authorcentral.amazon.com/gp/landing?ie=UTF8&ref_=ntt_atc_dp_pel_1

One thing that has really worked well for me in getting reviews is asking book bloggers to review (or promote) my book.  If they can’t review it, they might do a spotlight, author interview, guest post, or simply share your book on their social media pages.  You should have a “promo packet” ready with the book cover, author photo (if you have one, it should be professional-looking), buy links, links to your website/social media pages, and have excerpts & teasers (photo teasers are more captivating than plain text) for them to share.

If they agree to a review, gift them a free eCopy of the book in exchange for an honest review.  Never ask them to buy it.  It’s important to read their review policies before submitting a request and to follow their policy to a “T.”  Also, the more personalized the request, the better.  For example, if the reviewer noted something in their “about me” section, make a comment about how you relate to it in some way.  Definitely, address each blogger individually, by name.  For example, instead of “Dear blogger,” say “Dear (or Hi) Jane.”  They pretty much pass on copy & pasted requests and mass email requests sent to multiple bloggers.

I cannot stress enough how important it is to ask nicely.  Never, ever be pushy, or make demands.  Be extra courteous.  Remember that they help us promote our books for FREE and do it in their spare time because they are passionate about reading.  They are never obligated to do anything for us, ever.

In your request, tell them who you are, why you are contacting them, the books genre, how long the book is (in pages or word count), and include a super-short (but totally intriguing) synopsis so they have an idea of what your book is about.  They only accept books they think they might enjoy.  Never send the book before they agree to review it.  If they see an attachment, they will most likely delete your email without even opening it.

To put things into perspective, when I published The Fine Line, I emailed 427 bloggers.  This means I spent time on 427 blogs, reviewing each review policy, and about-me section.  It was time consuming, but SO worth it!  Most of them never responded to my request.  133 of them agreed to review my book.  I sent an eCopy of my book to all 133 of them.  Of that, only 83 of the bloggers who said they would review my book actually reviewed it.  It’s important to accept that not everyone does what they say they will do, and move on.  Never express your dissatisfaction.  Some reviews were phenomenal, and some were absolutely terrible!  It’s important to never ever respond to, or comment on the terrible ones.  Even if it kills you to not give that blogger or reviewer your two cents.  It’s just not professional and it could hurt an author’s career.  🙂

I kept a spreadsheet of all the bloggers I emailed, to keep track, and I highly recommend doing that.  That way, you’ll know for next time which ones you’ll want to contact again.  The header looked like this:

Blog Website Date Request Sent Request Format Response Date Action Review Status Misc Info

And if you are crunched for time, there are many book bloggers that will organize a blog tour for a fee.

Here are a couple of good articles about approaching book bloggers for reviews:

 
 

Goodreads is another place to reach out to readers for reviews.  There are some groups on Goodreads specifically designated to reviewing.  Again, the idea is that the reader is gifted the book in exchange for an honest review.  Always be kind and courteous.  Never pushy, desperate, or demanding.  And again, understand that not everyone who says they will review the book, does it.  It sucks when they don’t do what they promise, but unfortunately it’s just part of “the game.”

 

If your book is already published and you are looking to get more exposure, running a sale or discount on your ebook could boost sales.  If you decide to do this, it’s important to plan the sale at least 30 days in advance, and you must effectively promote the sale.  I wrote a blog post with links to many different websites that help authors promote their ebook discounts, and many times book bloggers will help with promotion. (Aren’t they awesome!  Seriously, I love them!)  Here it is: https://aliciakobishop.com/2015/03/23/promote-your-ebook-sale-or-discount/

 

Lastly, keep writing and publish more books!  If a reader likes your book, they’ll be looking at your back-list to see what else you have out there.  (This is something I, personally, need to get better at!)

 

Mark Coker, the founder of Smashwords, has two really good (free) eBooks about how to market your book.  I highly recommend that you read them!  Here they are:

 
 

I hope this helps!  You are welcome to comment below or email me if you have any questions.  🙂

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7 Ways to Help an Indie Author

Most of my previous blog posts have been about my personal journey, or have promoted my book.  Today, I’d like to try something a little different.  Something a little more informative.

Since writing and self-publishing The Fine Line last year, I’ve learned a great deal about book marketing.  My friends, family, and acquaintances–people who are not familiar with the book reading/publishing/blogging community–have been incredibly supportive and have frequently asked what they can to do help promote me and my book.  I have come up with several ideas on how supporters can do just that.  Most are quite easy, most are FREE, and most would only take a few short minutes.

(If you can think of more, I’d love to hear from you.  Feel free to comment at the end of this post!)  

1. Buy the Book–On Release Day

Okay, this one isn’t free.  But it’s the most meaningful.  We all know how important it is to support your favorite authors by purchasing their book.  And with most self-published eBooks being at a reasonable price of $3.99 or less (sometimes even FREE), purchasing your copy can be more affordable than a movie ticket, a Frappuccino at your favorite coffee chain restaurant, or even a pack of gum.  And what’s more rewarding–a stick of gum that runs out of flavor in 10 minutes, or 5-10 hours of a great read?  Also, with the help of Amazon’s “one-click” resource, the purchase itself can be easier than–well–breathing.

Let’s take it one step further.  Sure, we know you’ll buy the book because doing so is the best way to support your favorite author, and you’re excited to read their next masterpiece.  By pre-ordering your copy (when available), or buying it on release day, you can help the author move up in the rankings of lists such as Amazon’s Best Sellers, hence making their book visible to other readers who may not have ever heard of said author.  High rankings bring buzz and attention.  Of course, if you missed release day, don’t let that stop you from one-clicking.  🙂

One MORE step further you say?  Awesome!  How about buying it as a gift for a friend?  And if you can get it signed first, even better.  Many authors will sign books that are mailed to them as long as you include a return (postage paid) envelope.  I know I will!

(Please check with the author or representative before sending a book to them.  And don’t forget the prepaid return envelope!  Without it, you may not get the book back).

2. Recommend the Book to Family, Friends, Acquaintances, the Mail Man, etc..

Social media is amazing (see #3).  You know what’s better?  Face to face communication.  Having lunch with friends?  Going to a wedding shower?  Bachelorette party?  Family reunion?  Try making a quick mention of this awesome book you just read.  It will not only “plug” the book you’re trying to promote, it’ll also be a great conversation starter.

Checking out at the grocery store, or post office?  Browsing the book section at your local Target?  Why not make this time a little more interesting?  Talk to someone.  Even a *gasp* stranger.  Participating in friendly small talk with strangers can make everyone involved feel good.  Try asking the cashier this: Do you read?  Or fellow book-browsing-customer this: Do you like (book’s genre)?  Then continue with something like: I just read this amazing book by (author’s name), and it’s only available online.  If they seem interested, write down the name of the book & author for them.

3. Spread the Word on Social Media

If you haven’t followed the author on their Blog, Facebook, Google+, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, or whatever other social media networks you like to participate in, please do so!  If you haven’t signed up for their newsletter (if they have one), go for it!  “Like” their pages and recommend them to your friends.  It’s a great first step.

When the author posts information about releases, sales, contests, or anything else interesting, the best thing you can do is to share their post. Share it on Facebook or Google+, re-tweet it on Twitter, re-pin it on Pinterest.  Every little bit helps.

Want to make it more meaningful to your friends or followers?  When you share the content, include a small personal note about why you like the book, or author, or why they should click on the post.  A short message from you makes a huge difference!   

          (Note: Facebook is weird.  In order to make sure you see all of the author’s posts, click on the “like,” “follow,” AND “get notifications” buttons on their page.  Feel free to ask me if you have questions on how to do this.)

          (Note #2: Because of Facebook’s algorithms, page posts only get shown to 5-10% of page followers.  This means the likelihood of you NOT seeing a page post on FB is 95%.  So when you DO see it, “like” it, share it, and comment on it.  Interacting on the page in this way will make the post visible to more people.)

4. Spread the Word on Goodreads

Goodreads (GR) is a fabulous resource for authors and readers.  The reason I separated this from other social media networks is that there are so many awesome ways you can spread the word on GR.  A few are listed below.  If you can think of more, please feel free to comment at the end of the post!

Become a fan or friend of the author

Nominate or vote for the book on Listopia

Personally recommend the book to your GR friends (Click on the book you wish to recommend, then click on “recommend it” on the top right side of the page. Finally, choose the friends you wish to recommend the book to.)

Nominate the book for a “Group Read” in the related groups that you belong to

Talk about the book in your groups.  Just talking about it brings exposure to the book.  Recommending the book in your groups is great, too!

“Like” the 4 & 5 star GR reviews (Ignore the other ones.  Everyone is entitled to their opinions.)

Haven’t read the book yet, but want to?  Look for someone on GR to do a buddy-read with you!

Post book status updates.  How far are you in the book, and what do you think so far? (And link the updates to your other social media networks)

5. Leave a Review

One of the best things you can do to support ANY author, indie or traditional, is to leave an honest review.  It can be posted on Amazon, Goodreads, Barnes & Noble, iTunes, and/or anywhere else the book is sold.  The more places you post it, the better.  If you wish to include a description, or plot-points, feel free.  However, it’s totally fine for a review to be short, sweet, and to the point.  Simply including what you liked and/or what you wish would’ve been different in a few short sentences is wonderful.  I can’t say it enough…if you liked the book, please review it!

 6. Request or Reserve the Book at Your Local Library

If an indie author chooses to utilize “expanded distribution” with their print books, they make their books available to brick and mortar stores like Target and Barnes & Noble.  That being said, print on demand books are non-refundable in most cases which means the likelihood of a Barnes & Noble stocking an indie book is slim to none.

However, if you request an indie book at your local library, the chances are very likely that your library will order the book (if the author makes use of the expanded distribution option).  If the library is able to order it through their book vendor, they may just do so at your request.  Why not try it?  The library is a great place for readers to discover new authors (like the one you want to promote)!  And if you’re short on cash, or don’t have an e-reader, the library is a fabulous option.

Browsing your library’s website is great way to find out which books they have available before you make the trip.  If the library already has the book, place it on hold to make sure it will be ready for you when you get there.  If they don’t have the book yet, send an online request.  It’s easy and quick to do from the comfort of your own home.

7. Attend Author Events

Whether it’s a release party, a reading/signing, or multi-author event, you presence and support is what makes the sleepless nights, the time away from family, and the absolute terror of releasing your heart and soul to the world, all worth it for many authors.  Grab a friend, grab your book to be signed (if you have it) and go…have a great time.  It will mean everything to the author you want to support.

 

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Here’s What’s Happening

Guess what?  It’s been a while since I published The Fine Line and I do not have another book out yet!  Oh dear…that totally sucks because more books mean more exposure and anyone will tell you that one of the best things you can do to market your book…is to write more books.

So…why don’t I have another book out yet?

If you’ve read my past blog posts, you know that I had an incredibly fun time writing my first book last year.  I obtained a new-found passion in writing that I never knew I had and I really, truly enjoyed every moment of creating The Fine Line.  I loved it so much that I decided to try my hand at self-publishing.  And my oh my, what a roller-coaster ride it’s been!

I never expected to feel such amazing highs from comments like these:  A-freaking fantastic read, I have found another author to add to my stalker list..eeeeekkkkk :)” ~Endless Reading, or this: “For a debut novel, THIS IS REALLY AMAZING! ” ~Boekies’ Book Reviews, or this: “Whew! I finished the book and immediately went into this review because it left such a huge impact on me.” ~Itching for Books Blog, or this: “Here’s hoping that more books like this one will be written, cause if so, then the indie world just got that much better.” ~Book Reader Chronicles

Nor did I expect to feel so purely devastated from comments like these: “There is a long and tiring road ahead of you Mrs. Kobishop if you are to become a best-selling author who writes gripping, realistic and outstanding romance novels.” or this: I’m really sorry to say this but…if you don’t have any good ideas of your own then don’t write a book in the first place.” 

Talk about total opposite ends of the spectrum!  Sheesh!

What really surprised me, though, was how I became so thoroughly paralyzed by the opinions of others.  I thought I was tougher than that.  I mean, I’ve always cared about what others think…to a point…but I never let it stop me from doing what I want to do.  Never.

Here’s the truth:  I’ve had TONS of new book ideas since finishing The Fine Line.  And I’ve even started writing a few of these stories that have been prancing around in my mind.  But every time I start, a little voice inside my head says this: “What if it’s too cliche’? What if it’s not what readers are looking for?  What if it’s been done before?  What if that’s not where the book market is headed?  What if it totally sucks?”   So then I stop writing and move onto another idea, and repeat the cycle.

This is not a good routine for creativity OR productivity.  Not good at all.  How can I be creative when I have such a thick filter?  Well–I can’t.  The thing is, writing is in my blood now, and being productive is important if I want to advance my writing career!  I’m constantly daydreaming of new stories and it pains me not to get them out onto paper.

So, I’d like to publicly tell my inner critic to shut up.  There.  Done.  Consider my inner critic utterly squished.  Let’s just hope she doesn’t rise from the dead.

As far as my haters go…I’ll listen to my husband on that one.  He says, “Haters be hating.”  I’m not really sure what he means by that short little phrase, but I’ll take a guess and say it means I should just ignore them.  Because:

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After all, haters come with the territory, or so I’ve heard.  Maybe I’ll ignore Goodreads for a while, too.

The bottom line, and the reason for this post, is to say that writing is extremely important to me, and I’m ready to continue my journey as an author.

NOW FOR SOME BOOK NEWS!  

I have just started outlining a story that I have some incredibly good feelings about.  It’s one of the two stories that keep popping into my head–regardless of my inner critic.  You may love it, you may hate it, but I’m sure as heck writing it.

I’m not sure how long it will take me to complete it, which means I can’t give you a definite release date, or a guaranteed time frame, but I’m sure hoping it’ll be ready to be published by the end of the year (2014).  I will post frequent updates here, on Facebook, and/or on Twitter to keep you all in the loop!

 

 

My Self Publishing Journey…So Far

If you have read my previous posts, you already know that in early 2013, I spent some time thinking about what my real passions were.  I thought about whether I wanted to remain “comfortable” in my career, or if I wanted to take some risks and try something completely different.  I chose the latter.

At first, when I decided to write a book, I didn’t know if I would ever show it to anyone other than my husband.  In fact, I didn’t even tell anyone else I was writing a book until I was 2.5 months into it.  I found out in the very beginning that writing is an extremely personal experience where you must bare your deepest inner thoughts and emotions…Something I have always avoided at all costs.  Telling people was hard but I did it because I had become so passionate about it that I couldn’t not tell people about it.  I had come to a point where I needed to finish what I had started.   Initial reactions to my “writing confession” started with looks of confusion (I had never expressed any interest in writing before), to support and encouragement.   All I can say about that is I love my family & friends.  🙂

Fast forward a few months.  The book was edited, formatted, and finished.  Ready to be shown to anyone who wanted to read it.  Ready for people other than my husband and a few close friends.  It was ready for “strangers.”  My instinct begged me to keep it to myself…to not put my heart & soul out there for people to judge.  But I did it anyway.  Because being comfortable for the rest of my life would be fine–even great–but there is nothing more exhilarating than doing what you are passionate about.  And there is no reward without risk.

The book is out now, and I have had some phenomenal reviews!  The feeling of relief mixed with excitement when someone has expressed that they enjoyed my book is invigorating.  I have been pretty lucky in that each review has been a reflection of my writing strengths, and has provided me with insight to areas where I can improve for the next project.  I am so incredibly thankful to each and every person…every stranger…who has given my book a chance.  So far I have found the book world to be an encouraging and helpful group of people who are passionate about finding and reading new books by new authors.

I am slowly figuring out the “book marketing world,” though I’ll be the first to admit that I still have a lot to learn.  But I’ll get there.  For now, I have decided to finally put the social media on slow-mo to start my next book.  No more distractions!  (That means you Facebook, Twitter, and Goodreads!)  My plan is to get into the habit of staring at a blank word document without having my mind wander.  I won’t quit the social media completely cold turkey…I’ll dedicate some time here and there for emails and promotions and such…but the rest of my free time will be spent writing.  (Or staring at a blank word document).  And now that I’ve told you all my plan, I have to stick to it!

Progress

When I started writing in April, I had no idea how long it would take me to write a novel.  I had no idea of the research and thought involved, no idea how much it would consume my thoughts, and no idea how nervous I would be to share it with people.

As a new writer, one who has never really written anything worth publishing, the time spent in researching how to actually write a novel (that people will want to read) took up just as much time as actually writing it!  Actually, more…

I find writing to be interesting, fun, and intriguing, and I am learning more and more about it every day.  Regardless of how successful this book is, I plan on continuing to write after this book is finished because I have truly found passion in it.  In fact, I already have a basic plot in mind for my next book!

With my kids spending this coming weekend with the Grandparents, my plan is to hopefully finish my debut novel by the end of the weekend.  I have given what I have written so far to a few key beta readers, and once I get their feedback, I will edit accordingly before sending it out for the final edit.

I am SO happy to say that my old high school friend, who is now a high school English teacher, has agreed to do the final edit!  Thank you so much Angela!

As far as publishing goes, I am still researching the best route for that, but I do know it will either be through Smashwords or Amazon.  Smashwords even has a new pre-order feature which is pretty awesome.

I feel so lucky to have such supportive family and friends and I can’t wait to share the book with you all!

Don’t forget to follow my blog by clicking on the “follow” button on the left, like my author page on facebook, follow me on twitter, and share me with your family and friends and any avid book readers you may know!

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A Little Thing Called Balance

Balance.

I’ve got some questions about that.

Like, how do you do it?

How do you do it when you want to spend all your time with your kids?  And husband?  And chasing your dreams?

How do you do it  when there’s laundry and dishes and work and appointments and grocery shopping?

How do you do it when there are parties and get-togethers and extracurriculars and other “functions?”

I’ve been thinking about this incessantly for the last week or so…Ever since my kids told me I’m no fun anymore.  And I’m a fun Mom, so that hurt.

Some Solutions:

1. Prioritize.  Kids/Family first.  Dreams second.  Work third.  Parties/get-togethers fourth.  As for laundry/dishes/etc…If I get to it, I get to it.

2. Get organized.  Schedule everything – including alone time.  (This one will be tough…I’m a “take it as it comes” type person)

3. Realize it’s ok to say no sometimes.

4. Be ok with it if I make a mistake or two along the way as long as I learn from it.

Ok, to be completely honest, these steps may or may not happen.  I am in no way a supermom or superhousewife, I can’t even cook without burning something.  I’m just a person trying to make herself and her family happy.

I like to do what I want when I want to do it so the scheduling thing might not work out so well, and I hate having a stinky house and wrinkly clothes so I’m going to have to do dishes and laundry at some point.

My hope is that if I, at the very least, keep these steps in back of my mind, I will somehow metamorphasize into supermomwife and all will be well in the world.  And if I don’t become supermomwife…I’m ok with that as long as my kids think I’m fun, and I get to do a little bit of all those things I want to do.

A better solution:  Just roll with it.

If IMDb says I’m an actress, does that mean I am one?

Last fall I lost 2 people, who were close to me, to cancer.  One was an uncle-in-law, the other was a co-worker.  Both were way too young.  Both left behind young children.  I learned an extremely important, crucial, valuable lesson from them which I will forever be thankful for.

After losing them, I came to a realization.  One that everyone always talks about, but never really hit me.  Life is short.  Today really could be our very last day her on earth.  I’m young(ish)!  I have small children!  It could happen to anyone at any time.  It was a slap in the face, a light-bulb going off in my head, it was as if someone had shaken some sense into me, and I started to ask myself…If I died tomorrow, will I have been content knowing that I have done all I wanted to do in this life?

Of course not.  I would like to meet the person who says yes to that question.

So then I thought…”What do I want to do that I haven’t done?”  and I said to myself, “Being in a movie would be cool.  Other people act in movies, why can’t I?”  (This was long before writing a novel came to the forefront of my mind).

So, I did an internet search and found out that it’s very difficult to get information about an audition if you don’t have an agent.  And if you don’t have experience, an agent won’t even consider representing you.  And you can’t get experience without…Well, you know.  It’s a vicious cycle.

However, I did find an audition for an independent film, without the help of an agent.  I had a lot of fun with the cold read, and got a callback, and after the callback, I was offered a small role.  Cool, huh?

The shoot was earlier this week, and since the role was a very small one, it was very quick.  The entire process was such an incredible learning experience and I am truly, utterly, deeply grateful to have been able to do it.   Thank you to Brandon Colvin and Moss Garden Productions for giving me a chance!

For more information about the film, go to Sabbatical’s website – click here.

To see the film’s IMDb page, click here.

Here are some thoughts I have been pondering about this experience:

LESSONS LEARNED:
1. It takes a lot of people to shoot a scene in a film.
2. The cast and crew of Sabbatical are pretty freaking cool.  They know how to make a newbie feel comfortable.
3. I get nervous in front of a camera
4. I’m much better at reacting to an actual person than I am at acting at a camera
5. Ask questions!  If I don’t get something, I need to ask questions until I do.  Ask, ask ask. 
6. At the end of the day, no matter what situation I’m in, I am able to come back to a loving home, to a husband that makes me feel awesome (even when I am feeling less than awesome) and kids who make me smile and laugh.  In the grand scheme of things, this is the only thing that truly matters.
7. Those 2 special people, who taught me such an incredible lesson, will forever hold a cherished place in my heart.
THINGS TO DO:
1. Get in front of a camera more so I can get over that weird, deafening, heart-pounding thing that happens when you stick a camera in front of me (Lisa G. where are you?  I need some tips!)
2. Remember to ask questions.
3. Thank my husband and kids every day for their love, support, and encouragement while I live out my cockamamie dreams.
4. Keep bringing my cockamamie dreams to life.
I LEAVE YOU WITH TIM MCGRAW

What’s Your Passion?

I came across a quote the other day:

“If there is no passion in your life, then have you really lived? Find your passion, whatever it may be. Become it, and let it become you and you will find great things happen FOR you, TO you and BECAUSE of you.” – T. Alan Armstrong

I can’t tell you how nervous I was when I “let the cat out of the bag” and told you all I was writing a novel, because the thought of people actually reading what I’ve written kinda freaks the hell out of me.   But the truth is, since I’ve started this project, I’m excited, charged, renewed…I’ve found that I truly enjoy writing.  It’s an adventure!  It’s something I’ve become passionate about.

Of course, we all have many things in our lives that we find passion in, including our relationships with our loved ones.  But what’s that one far-fetched thing that you always wanted to do, but never did because of “this” or “that?”  My advice?  Do it.  Make it happen.  Even if it freaks the hell out of you.

And have some fun with it!!!

Love? Or Lust…

In so many romance novels, we see an instant connection with the hero and heroine before they ever speak to each other.  Is it love at first sight?  Or something a little less sentimental and a little more…physical?

My own personal experience has led me to believe that you can have an instant attraction to someone, but a real connection can only come when you have an actual conversation with them.

Case in point:  I’m 15.  At work.  A new employee is spotted across the room.  Not any ordinary employee.  This one is of the male variety; tall with jet black hair, sky blue eyes, built, and literally just walked out of GQ magazine.  Yes, literally.  Ok, maybe my memory is a little fuzzy because if I’m 15, he’s probably the same age or a year or two older at the most, so maybe he just walked out of Teen Bop magazine (is that still around?)

Anyway, I said to myself, “Holy hell, I have got to go talk to this boy.”  I go to introduce myself and to this day, I have no idea what he said, or what I said, or what his name is, but it didn’t take long to realize there was no connection.  I’m sure he’s a great guy, just no connection.

What do you think?  Can there be a real connection before conversation?

Play it loud! And often!

Who’s kids say to their parents:  “Turn the music down!”  and “why do you ALWAYS have to listen to music?”

Mine.

My answer: How boring would everything be without it?  Music is motivation.  It makes doing laundry easier.  It makes driving more fun.  It enhances experiences.  We all know there are certain songs that, when you hear them, immediately take you back to a time and place.

Collective Soul came on the radio today and I was in high school again.  Sweet Child O Mine takes me there, too.

Every time I hear Drive, by the Cars, I travel back to my childhood bedroom where I would play my Cars cassette over and over again on the purple tape player that I got for my 8th birthday.

Crash by the Dave Matthews Band?  I’m in the Smoky Mountains where my now husband/then boyfriend and I took a spontaneous camping trip and forgot to pack our sleeping bags.  (Brrrr!)

Music plays constantly while I write.  Most of the time, I’ll play a song over, and over, and over again until a scene is done.  In fact, the sunrise scene had 2 huge inspirations:

This song:

And this sunrise:

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Here’s my point:  Listen to music loud and often.  I believe my children like music just as much as the rest of the world does.  They just like to go against the grain…